On Girls

Increasing parental pressure coupled with my close friends contemplating marriage (or are married already) has caused me to think a lot more about dating and marriage. I remember reading a friend's blog where she remarked that it was like all her friends were at a dance, and as the night wound down, everyone was frantic to find a partner. She was single at the time, now dating.

I have wondered if I felt the same sentiment. Not exactly. I would mourn the loss of friendships as people's lives get busy. That and people tend to hang around with people at the same life stage.

On a side note, another one of my friend bears the most flak regarding being single. He's younger than me. So I wonder if people have given up on me. :P

Friends have often pointed out so and so as a potential to date. It's kind of funny to see who your friends think of for you. It demonstrates what they think of you. The worst is when they try to browbeat you into liking a girl when you are not attracted to her.

Helpful Friend: "What about Sally?* She's pretty."
R: "Nah, I'm not interested in her."
Helpful Friend: "Why not?"
R: "err... no reason."**
Helpful Friend: "What, are you gay?"
R: "Yes, that's definitely it."

*Names changed to protect the innocent!
**Options include
A) Saying something negative about her - which will undoubtedly get back to her.
B) Saying something negative about yourself - which will encourage helpful friend to "encourage" you and say that you should "go for it!"
C) "No reason" - which will result in more pestering until you do an "A" or "B".

So in the interest of avoid future sidestepping of conversations, here are some things I'm looking for in a girl:

Christian (and theologically compatible which will undoubtedly be the harder part)
Fun-loving
Attractive (beauty is in the eye of the beholder)
Younger (you'll see why in a second)
Able to be led/taught
Able to keep home
Libertarian/Conservative leaning
Home schooling
Total denial and rejection of feminist indoctrination

Each line could merit a post on its own. But, you can probably see that many of the qualities would be difficult to find in a girl much less all of them. For the girl to be younger is important, because time will help in explaining why I have adopted certain viewpoints.

As for whether I'll get married or remain single, I would probably lean towards the former. Not excitedly so, as marriage brings both benefits (and they are awesome benefits) and difficulties. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7, that his opinion is that it is better to be single... more time to do work for the Kingdom. Jesus Christ was a single man. (side note: it's hilarious when people claim that you're not fully a man unless your married... then you can point out that Jesus was not married...)

edit: I just realized I have no "Girls" tag. Hence, I probably haven't written on this topic much at all!